We're baaaaack! This week, we dive into the concept of compulsory heterosexuality—or “comp het”—and explore how it shapes our understanding of attraction, relationships, and identity. Coined by poet and theorist Adrienne Rich, comp het describes the ways society pressures people to perform heterosexuality regardless of their true desires. We break down where the term comes from, and how it continues to show up in culture today.
This week, we dive into the concept of compulsory heterosexuality—or “comp het”—and explore how it shapes our understanding of attraction, relationships, and identity. Coined by poet and theorist Adrienne Rich, comp het describes the ways society pressures people to perform heterosexuality regardless of their true desires. We break down where the term comes from, and how it continues to show up in culture today. From media portrayals, to family and community expectations, to those confusing moments when you’re not sure if you’re attracted to someone or just conditioned to believe you should be, comp het can be hard to untangle, but we gotchu. We also dig into:
💕 How the internalized pressure to be straight can complicate dating and self-discovery
📺 Real-world examples from pop culture and our lives that illustrate what this is
🌎 How everyone is affected by this—not just women or queer folks
📚 All of the policing around terms just like this one
A few of the reads we mention this week:
Adrienne Rich's milestone 1980 essay
The Lesbian Master Doc
A few resources: A, B, C
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